Ok, just come back to work after 6 days of fun in Hong Kong and 1 day of rest due to delay of flight which had caused me to only get to bed at home at 5am when everyone else was about to wake up for his/her new day. This Hong Kong trip is truly an enjoyable and fruitful break away from everything in Singapore. At first, I wanted to travel alone. But, God blessed me with my best friend as my travelling companion. Usually, I would depend on my travelling companions to plan the itineraries and direct the ways and I would just tag along wherever they go and will only go on our seperate ways if some of us would like to visit certain places which the others may not be interested in.
However, for this Hong Kong trip, my best friend who is detailed and patient looked for all the details and maps of the places we might want to visit and booked the air tickets and hotel room. How about me? I brought her all over the Hong Kong. I would look at the maps from her and discuss with her which cluster of places we would like to visit daily. I led the way. I often do not like to plan things to the details and prefer to keep my options open. I love variety and surprises. So, I tried to cover all forms of transportattion and activities such as shopping, sight-seeing, eating, etc. I was thinking and walking fast onmy feet at the same time. We did cover one outlying island within these six days.
Both of us enjoyed ourselves but were very tired. I did some reflection in the plane on our way back to Singapore. If this trip is seen as my marriage and my best friend were to be my spouse, I am sorry to say that he would feel 'unmarried'. I am definitely not a gentle person who will 'sayang' (stroke) you gently with soft sweet words. I expect the other party to be independent. I often walk so fast that my loved ones would be all drained out trying to follow my pace. I have been trying to slow down and be more caring and gentler but often fail. I think my poor best friend had to go for her leg transplant after this trip with me. I was surprised that she asked me where we should go for our next trip though I might be temperamental and fast and seemed not to be considerate towards her, especially when I was very tired from thinking fast on my feet most of the time and much walk while making sure we had good food and were safe at the same time. I am thankful to God that I had her to take care of the small details which she is capable of. Without such attention to such small details which I am not capable of, the whole trip would not have been smooth and would have come with more frustration of getting lost and clueless in the foreign land.
Come to think of it. I am blessed that I am still not married atb this point of time. I think I will end up in divorce as the unfortunate spouse will feel unappreciated and uncared for and is simply tired of catching up with me. Whether I will be blessed with marriage or not, I still need to slow down and be more caring towards others. If not, I may be ahead of others but walking a lonely path, leaving others behind. Well, Jesus di not travel alone though he might have quiet time alone with God from time to time. Even when he died, two criminals of the lowest class died with him which places emphasis on his love for people, especially the outcast, lonely and ostracized groups of people. He was never alone. How can Love be shared when one is always alone?What quality of life is that when there is no one to share sorrows and joys with me no matter how successful I may be in my career? The world does not revolve around me. I must continue to learn to decrease myself and leave more space for God and others within me. I also need to learn to be more patient and speak up even more. My mind is always ahead of most people's around me and I tend to find it redundant to explain the details to the people. When some of them are slow in any ways, I become impatient. I am definitely not smart. It's just coincidental that I do see certain things ahead of others. When I fail or refuse to explain in details or speak up, people misunderstand me and I get into troubles. Like what my mentor told me my mental process is abit different from the others and a professional thinking style test has shown that my thinking style belongs to the minority of the population, it still causes me a lot of frustration even if I bother to explain certain things to others or speak up since some of them still can't get it until things happen later on, sometimes, they happen years later. So, most of the time, I keep my mouth shut lo. I know this is bad lah. My close friends have told me off and asked me to speak up if needed be instead of being misunderstood by the others. I think I have a lot of room for improvement. One thing I am grateful and thankful is some loved ones and friends accpet me as who I am though I am a dfficult a person to get along with and understood. I was quite touched when my best friend joked with me that the day when I become gentle and 'sayang' (stroke) people gently will be the day when I am possessed by some spirit. She has never expected me to change into someone I am not as she has known me for 15 years. She accepts me as who I am with my flaws.
Ok, I have overspent way beyond my budget for this trip. Need to scrimp and save for the next few months. But, I am very happy to have such a break and enjoy buying things for my loved ones and friends. What does it matter if the money can buy gifts for them to bring them joy? Money can always be earned though I am still underpaid. Anyway, God has been blessing me throughout my life and that, itself, is the greatest blessing of all which no one can snatch away from me. So, I am a wealthy woman all this while!!
With Love,
Elena
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